I have seen it many times!
Parents ask their teens teens how they are doing in school, if they have completed homework, or if they studied for their next test.
But every time you ask, you are met with resistance.
You only want to make sure that they are staying on top of their assignments, but they are resistant to your help.
The questions lead to resistance, which leads to frustration, which leads to fights. For some parents, the fighting becomes a nightly struggle as it becomes the battle of wills.
So many parents come to me and tell me “I’m just SO tired of the fighting!”
Can you relate?
Are you just tired?
tired of asking if they completed their homework?
tired of having them ignore you when you encourage them to have better work habits?
tired of feeling like you’re nagging because their grade is dropping?
tired of feeling like they don’t care that their grade is dropping?
tired of having a weekly or daily fight about them needing to work harder or do better in school?
You are NOT alone! I see this happen with SO many parents!
Here is what you can do!
Get some help!
The sad truth is, teens don’t always listen to their parents. (Shocking, I know). Even though your advise and help is spot on, they still don’t listen.
I once had a student that I worked with and gave him 3 steps he needed to complete a homework assignment. After talking with the mom, she told me, “That is EXACTLY what I told him!”.
Even though her teen was happy to follow my advise, he was completely resistant to follow the SAME advise from his own mom.
Most times, it just takes someone else talking to your teen to give them the same advise for your teen to listen and understand!
Seek help from the teacher
Teachers are the best people to help your teen! That is why I highly encourage students to seek after school help whenever possible!
If your child’s teacher offers after school help, make sure your child is there to help! If you’re not sure if the teacher offers after-school opportunities, make sure to ask!
Schedule the after-school hours every single week! If no other student goes to these after school hours, then your teen will get private, individualized attention.
This is like free tutoring! Why wouldn’t you take advantage of it!
Make a plan!
If you are tired and frustrated with your teens grades, what do you plan of doing about it? Do you currently have a plan of how your teen will start to improve their grades each week?
Or are you just hoping and praying that your teen will magically start doing better on their own?
Sadly, this is just not the case! Most teens don’t do better because they have no idea HOW to do better!
Find a Community
Do you currently have a supportive community?
I encourage all parents to find the right community for support from other parents going through the same parenting journey!
If you haven’t yet found the right community, I would love to invite you to join ours! Our parent support group is called Academic Accelerators for Parents of Teens. Our group is focused on providing support, encouragement, and resources to parents of teens that struggle in school.
Hey there! My name is Rachael and I have been a private tutor for over 10 years. I earned my undergraduate degree in 2 and a half years and earned my graduate degree by age 22. I have tutored dozens of high school students, college students, and graduate students. I offer support, encouragement, and resources to help parents learn how to best help their teen or child that is struggling in school.